Life is a series of ups and downs. There’s no one way to live, and each choice you make can either have a positive or negative impact on the rest of your life. Sometimes, life goes too fast to the point where we aren’t able to catch a break. Other times life goes too slow and it seems as if nothing good is happening to you anymore. But regardless of wherever you are in your life, here are ten things that you need to hear.
- Not everything is your fault
Have you ever heard of the saying that you are your biggest critic? I can admit that I’ve blamed myself for a lot of things, both to myself and out loud, for something that I did not do.
There are some things in life that we do have to take the blame for. It is important to assess situations and see where the problem started in order to fix it. But if it is out of your control, there is not much that you can do but go through it. And don’t blame yourself for that.
2. Take risks.
You don’t have to be an extrovert or adventurous to take risks.
3. Don’t take every opinion.
I’ve learned to not take everything seriously. It’s not worth it anymore.
Some opinions of others are mere projections. A lot of people would rather point out someone else’s issues rather than accepting that they are the one with that problem.
“What others think of you is none of your buisness.” -Breeny Lee
Someone doesn’t like my hair? That’s fine. I like my hair. God loves it. That’s all that matters.
4. Accept what makes you different.
Everyone has something that makes them stand out from others. If you put a handful of students in the room, everyone does not share the same exact qualities. Student 1 is amazing at volleyball. Student 2 is horrible at volleyball, but she just got her research paper published. Student 3 cannot do sports, or isn’t as smart as Student 2, but they have a gift of inspiring others through their words.
Once you accept what makes you different, your self-esteem will thank you and it will help you find out who you are.
5. Actually make boundaries. Like write it down.
I started creating boundaries for myself when I got tired of being used and mistreated. Boundaries doesn’t have to be big like ignoring everyone for 2 months, you can start small. A few examples are:
- Taking time in the morning to not go on your phone.
- Balancing your work/personal life. “After 4 pm, I do not talk buisness.”
- Saving every 5 or 10 dollar that you get.