I can’t change it.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life. Mistakes that could have been prevented. There are so many things that I’ve said and done, and the worst part is, I can’t go back in time to change it. Maybe if there was a way that I could stop my past self and warn her before she does something reckless. That said, without those mistakes, I would not be typing this today.

I can’t speak for anyone, but I know that I first blame others before accepting that I also played a role in some sort of issue. The fact that I condoned it or allowed it to keep happening, no matter how little I contributed to it, meant that I also was a part of the issue. 

Sometimes I blame myself and come to the conclusion that I’m a horrible person. I can’t even say much because it’s so hard to see the overall lesson or message when you’re caught up in the mess. But just because you’ve made a mistake doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Your mistakes help you but they do not define you. Even though it took me a long time to realize that, I’m grateful that I eventually did.

Have you ever heard of the saying that you are your biggest critic? I can admit that I’ve blamed myself for a lot of things, both to myself and out loud, for something that I did not do.

There are some things in life that we do have to take the blame for. It is important to assess situations and see where the problem started in order to fix it. But if it is out of your control, there is not much that you can do but go through it. And don’t blame yourself for that.

Life is a series of ups and downs. Make mistakes. Grow. Live. It’s okay to slip up, as long as you don’t let those slip-ups define your worth.