u don’t have to be perfect.

I remember when I was younger and I wanted the perfect lips. My lips are on the bigger side and I wanted them to be different. Due to the media and my peers, I wanted my lips to be small and thin. I was so insecure to the point where I looked up on Google how to make my lips smaller. Years later, having big lips is now trendy. People are getting lip injections and lip fillers. When the Kylie Jenner trend was going around, I was wondering why people would want such atrocious lips like mine. I didn’t even like my own lips. Why would someone else want them? 

Some, like me, try to fit into everyone else’s definition of “perfect,” but when they find out that perfection is false, it sends them into a rabbit hole of doubt, insecurity, and uncertainty. Trends are changing every day, let’s be real, and perfection is subjective, especially in today’s world. So many people want the “perfect” body type, until it changes 10 years later, and it’s no longer perfect. 

I really hope that as people try to become “perfect,” they discover an even more important principle. That is finding out who they really are and maybe even eventually appreciating themselves. I know for a fact that I love my lips now 🙂

Self discovery is never ending. We change daily. We lose hair. We shed dead skin cells. My favorite color today might not be my favorite color tomorrow. Throughout life we experience changes, challenges and learn new things. Understanding ourselves is a task on its own because there are so many beliefs and motivations to explore within ourselves.

And although finding yourself is never ending and is not really guaranteed, the journey to finding yourself is beautiful. You discover your strengths, your weaknesses, your likes, your dislikes. You start to realize that no one really knows who you are except for yourself and your creator. You also start to realize that there’s really no one like you. Although you may have friends with similar interests, you may have a deeper love for that interest than the other person or vice versa. 

Let’s not try to make ourselves and our lives “perfect” end up forgetting the good that we already have